“Teachers who care were described as demonstrating democratic interaction styles, developing expectations for student behavior in light of individual differences, modeling a ‘caring’ attitude toward their own work, and providing constructive feedback.” (Wentzel, 1997, pg 411)
Democratic interaction styles; this to me means children want to make their own choices especially at the middle school level. To care I also need to have expectations for each student as individuals not just as a whole. This to me means as a teacher to show that I care I need to have lesson plans that let students make choices and experiment with different ideas with support.
“Although it has been show that community climate and support alone are insufficient to promote achievement gains in middle grades, a balance between perceived support and academic demands seems to promote achievement and social-emotional well being…” (Juvonen et al., 2004, p. 50)
Caring is good, letting students make choices is good and be part of a community is good but if I do not have high expectations academically as a teacher for my students that caring and support in my mind is wasted. I can pat my students on the head all day long and say good job but without challenge in my mind the student would grow bored and other problems could arise.
“…education must focus on teaching all people how to live in an inclusive community where each person is treated with respect and dignity and enlisted to participate fully in the life of the community.” (Beck & Malley, 1998, p. 137)
In my mind this excerpt is telling me that each child needs to feel as they belong and have a role in the community that is the classroom. In doing this as a teacher I would then hope that they could learn to treat each person with respect and later on do the same thing in a larger community for example the community they live or the place they work.
“…there is much more to interpersonal caring than teachers merely exhibiting feelings of kindness, gentleness, and benevolence toward students, or expressing some generalized sense of concern. In fact, these attitudes without concomitant competence producing actions constitute a form of academic neglect.” (Gay, 2000, p. 48)
Telling a student that it is ok if they don’t get it that they can just do their best to me is not enough. I was not always of this mind set as growing up I was told just do you best. There were times when my best wasn’t good enough. What if though as a teacher I said, “I know this is hard, but you can do this and I am here to help you learn this.” I never once in all my years as a student heard that from my teachers; from my father yes and my mother but never my teachers. In an AP civics class in high school which challenged me greatly but at the end of the semester I felt like a failure. Looking back I realize I still learned a great deal but never improved in the class. How I as a teacher show my students that I care matters in my mind a great deal.
At the middle school level I would have 50 minutes with possibly 180 students. All of the above mentioned ideas on caring are important to me but with so many students and so little time will each student know I care? Bill Ayers talks about not only realizing a student’s weaknesses but also utilizing their strengths and letting students show them and utilize them with their peers. If I as a teacher can figure a way for every student in my classroom to utilize their strengths as well as know and improve their weaknesses in my mind I’ve accomplish the first goal in my mind to teaching; growth.
Challenging lesson plans in my mind is not enough. I need to let each student know that I am there when the challenging lesson plan is too much. In my last class it was brought up that just remembering to care and have time for self reflection as a teacher helps. The issue of teachers saying they do not have enough time was brought up and I immediately grew angry. Yes, I realize to balance lesson plans, district expectations, social issues (bullying, fights, absences) and still get to know your students is not easy. Just thinking about it I myself get overwhelmed; at the end of the day though it is about the students and nothing else. I am hoping that if I couple challenging lesson plans with a supportive foundation of yes you can and I am here to help you with little things like greeting students at the door each class, having not just name cards but on the cards they can ask questions make comments privately just between me and them, that each student will feel that I care not only about them as a student but as a person.
One thing I noticed about the quotes above is that it only mentions caring as a teacher student relationship. What about teachers caring about other teachers? If we model caring towards each other with things just as simple as how is your day going, do you need help with anything, how did that last lesson go, I think our students would see this and learn from it. On multiple occasions when I have gone to classrooms to observe teachers they have said things like oh I wish I could go see her classroom, I’ve heard she does great things. Or comments of I’ve never seen him teach but hear he knows his stuff. Just because we are teachers does not mean we cannot still learn and learn from each other. I don’t remember who said this to me but I was told that lesson plans can always be improved. How can we as teachers expect great things from our students if we ourselves do not have those expectations for ourselves?
As I think and reflect on what it means to be a caring teacher I become very overwhelmed and emotional. What if I’m not good enough? I’ve already had the dreams where I start my class but no one is there, or even worse they are all present but I can’t get their attention. AH! Will I care enough about my students to help them learn and grow not just as a student but as a person?